Post by Admin on Nov 18, 2016 12:33:32 GMT
Hi Paul,
Firstly, may I thank you for not only the wonderful website that you administer but also your kind and wonderful voice when I use the helpline. You always make me feel at ease and very comfortable talking confidentially in your presence and you should give yourself a big pat on the back for that.
My username on the forum is L and I am writing to you in response to the post I made on the Message Boards about my blood test results. I suppose I am looking to you to provide me with some guidance managing what hopefully will be a bug (I love your use of that term) that I will live with for the rest of my life.
Why hopefully? Well, I currently love my girlfriend and she is a chronic carrier (as are several members of her family) so I kind of hope I am going to be stuck with the bug for several years to come.
Firstly, could you do me a huge favour and change my username on the website. ... is my girlfriends surname and it was a pretty silly username for me to use. I know she doesn't talk openly about her situation so it was stupid and irresponsible of me to use her surname as my username (twice). Could you possibly change it to Buglover or something like that.
I thought I would just start out by telling you what I would like. Like a Hep B Father Christmas list. You can then tell me how you can help me (if you don't mind that is). I am also a writer and would love to write a no holds barred article about my association and experience with the bug (maybe even split it up into several fortnightly articles if you want)? Anyway let me know if that would be useful for you.
Almost all of my questions involve sex (something I will write about a great deal because I think the power of sex is not to be under-estimated even when the presence of a nasty bug).
I have been married for 15-years (and with my former partner for 20-years). I am currently going through a divorce and during those 20-years I never used a condom ever. My wife used contraception and whenever we wanted sex it just naturally happened.
I met my new girlfriend in June of this year and she told me she had Hep B. I had to start using a condom but after 20-years it seems my little willy doesn't like condoms because I lose my erection during full intercourse. I believe I have foolishly allowed this erection problem to place myself in more risk with my partner. I have to try much harder to please my new girlfriend in other ways. I cannot have oral sex which is so frustrating. I used to constantly worry about getting vaginal fluid on my fingers and then putting them in my mouth. These past few weeks I have been a lot more relaxed about this (maybe foolishly I don't know).
When my girlfriend is having her period she becomes more sexually aroused and her periods last a long time. We assume the presence of blood heightens the risk but we don't always know when blood is going to be present (apart from the heavy periods) so usually at the beginning and end of her period. I am so used to just getting messy that I am finding the whole (not messy) thing rather plastic and it is affecting my libido. Other than sex I feel very positive that I would be extremely safe around this bug in terms of staying away from her blood. So it all boils down to sex!
So the Doctor has told me that I have not developed enough antibodies after my third immunisation to remove me from risk (2%). He has told me that I have to wait one year to have a booster injection and until then I will always remain at risk. I have no symptoms whatsoever and a great frame of mind. I just have to get used to the fact that I am always going to be exposed to this bug.
My main question concerns immunisation. Do I wait for a year? Can I take more immunisations immediately (i.e., another course of three). Am I just one of these unlucky people in the world who will never develop immunity? How will I know? Can everyone develop immunity but it just takes time? Should I start wearing an all over body suit just to have sex!
Thanks in advance
77 L S top Talking - Start Acting - One Life
Firstly, may I thank you for not only the wonderful website that you administer but also your kind and wonderful voice when I use the helpline. You always make me feel at ease and very comfortable talking confidentially in your presence and you should give yourself a big pat on the back for that.
My username on the forum is L and I am writing to you in response to the post I made on the Message Boards about my blood test results. I suppose I am looking to you to provide me with some guidance managing what hopefully will be a bug (I love your use of that term) that I will live with for the rest of my life.
Why hopefully? Well, I currently love my girlfriend and she is a chronic carrier (as are several members of her family) so I kind of hope I am going to be stuck with the bug for several years to come.
Firstly, could you do me a huge favour and change my username on the website. ... is my girlfriends surname and it was a pretty silly username for me to use. I know she doesn't talk openly about her situation so it was stupid and irresponsible of me to use her surname as my username (twice). Could you possibly change it to Buglover or something like that.
I thought I would just start out by telling you what I would like. Like a Hep B Father Christmas list. You can then tell me how you can help me (if you don't mind that is). I am also a writer and would love to write a no holds barred article about my association and experience with the bug (maybe even split it up into several fortnightly articles if you want)? Anyway let me know if that would be useful for you.
Almost all of my questions involve sex (something I will write about a great deal because I think the power of sex is not to be under-estimated even when the presence of a nasty bug).
I have been married for 15-years (and with my former partner for 20-years). I am currently going through a divorce and during those 20-years I never used a condom ever. My wife used contraception and whenever we wanted sex it just naturally happened.
I met my new girlfriend in June of this year and she told me she had Hep B. I had to start using a condom but after 20-years it seems my little willy doesn't like condoms because I lose my erection during full intercourse. I believe I have foolishly allowed this erection problem to place myself in more risk with my partner. I have to try much harder to please my new girlfriend in other ways. I cannot have oral sex which is so frustrating. I used to constantly worry about getting vaginal fluid on my fingers and then putting them in my mouth. These past few weeks I have been a lot more relaxed about this (maybe foolishly I don't know).
When my girlfriend is having her period she becomes more sexually aroused and her periods last a long time. We assume the presence of blood heightens the risk but we don't always know when blood is going to be present (apart from the heavy periods) so usually at the beginning and end of her period. I am so used to just getting messy that I am finding the whole (not messy) thing rather plastic and it is affecting my libido. Other than sex I feel very positive that I would be extremely safe around this bug in terms of staying away from her blood. So it all boils down to sex!
So the Doctor has told me that I have not developed enough antibodies after my third immunisation to remove me from risk (2%). He has told me that I have to wait one year to have a booster injection and until then I will always remain at risk. I have no symptoms whatsoever and a great frame of mind. I just have to get used to the fact that I am always going to be exposed to this bug.
My main question concerns immunisation. Do I wait for a year? Can I take more immunisations immediately (i.e., another course of three). Am I just one of these unlucky people in the world who will never develop immunity? How will I know? Can everyone develop immunity but it just takes time? Should I start wearing an all over body suit just to have sex!
Thanks in advance
77 L S top Talking - Start Acting - One Life